In any good business transaction, before handing over a fat check, all clients essentially want the same thing: commitment. A client wants to know that they are investing in someone who will care about their goals, and will commit to getting the job done. Your girlfriend is no different.
Although most women still fantasize about a picture-perfect wedding, long gone are the days when they waited for Prince Charming to show. Modern women are much more likely to go after what they want, and if wedding bells are ringing in their heads, it can be quite a task to silence them.
Often, an unsuspecting boyfriend can be tossed into a premature request for serious commitment. While a woman might feel this is necessary to push the relationship to the next level, it usually does more harm than good. The relationship suffers a lot of pressure, and often causes the couple to plummet into an unnecessary break-up.
The good news is, the dreaded C word now comes in many shapes and sizes. So long as she feels secure in the relationship, there’s still a good chance she’ll wait for you.
If your girlfriend is pulling the strings on you, don’t go running for the hills yet. There’s more that you can do besides telling her you’re not ready. Here are a few tips to assure her of your love, even if it’s not time for an “I do.”
More than anything, your girl wants a little dedication. Maybe, you don’t have wads of cash to spend on her this weekend, or loads of time to spare, and you dread long hours of conversation. Guess what? There’s a pretty good chance, she’d rather be cruising.
Often, women ask questions and poke around your personal space because they feel left out. You make an effort to joke around with your buddies, impress your boss, and make small-talk with the cashier at Denny’s, but when it comes to her, you just want to lay back and relax.
There is nothing wrong with relaxing, but if she’s been looking forward to seeing you, those one-word answers aren’t going to cut it. If the attention you give her is basically sloppy seconds, she’s going to feel like you don’t care. So, how do you make sure she feels wanted? Easy. Just show her.
Sure, this task can be a little overwhelming for those who have no clue where to begin, so brace yourself, it gets better. Here are a few tips that might help you show your girl she’s earned more than your leftovers.
First of all, ask yourself that simple question many guys overlook. What does she like? Is she a movie buff? Did she play the violin when she was little? Was she on the soccer team in high school? Questions like these can help you plan dates that are unique and unforgettable.
When in doubt, call her girlfriends. A close friend of hers will often do most of the hard labor while you sit back and take the credit. It’s a shortcut to the inside scoop. If you want to plan a special night for her, a close friend will likely be willing to help and take half the load off of you.
If she hasn’t seen her friends in a while, a day out with the girls might be just what she needs. A gift certificate to her favorite shoe store, a few gal-pals to help her shop, and she’ll be smiling all day.
Make her blush. Sometimes the simplest answers are closer than you think. A cheap, and sexy solution is right in your bathroom. Turn water on, add bubbles, and you’re done. Fixing a bath for her shows that you’ve thought of her. To add the finishing touches, a few candles, a glass of wine when you greet her at the door, and she’ll adore you for days.
If you and your girl don’t spend a lot of time outside of your apartment or hers, change your surroundings. Meet her at the beach or at the park and watch the sun set. A little take-out and a blanket will make her melt. You will achieve a memorable afternoon for about $14.99. It beats eating in front of the TV again, and you can guarantee she’ll feel special.
The key is to break the norm. You get bored of the same routines, so what makes you think she doesn’t? If your girl is a keeper, make sure she knows it. Maybe, when she realizes there’s no reason to question your love, she won’t feel the need to. You should never be forced into a life-changing decision like marriage, but just because you're not ready, doesn't mean you need to lose the woman you love.
