It has been several times since I've been trying to call my boyfriend last week ago, but he didn't even want to hang up. Then, he sent me a text messages, he said that he wanted to be alone, feels uncomfortable with me, and need to get over me. Then, suddenly I felt like standing upside down, felt so desperate, depressed, hopelessness and sad. Then I started to cry, is this called a broken heart???
What is broken heart?
The emotional condition that we do not expect to happened, such as broke up with the one you love most, no matter he/she leave you without or with reasons such as passed away. Rejection and insults by the one that we loved one or someone whom you respect will also cause a broken heart. The most common things, the majority of the cases are usually related to break up with boyfriend/girlfriend. This article will give you glimpses about the mystery surrounding with the broken heart based on true story of the writer.
What will happen to me if I feel broken heart?
When you experience broken heart, these are what usually happen;
Denial
Denial is the first step of grieving. When your boyfriend/girlfriend left you, you will probably bargain and ask you're self, why he leaves me? Am I not good enough for him? Why he doesn't love me anymore? Am I not pretty enough to catch all his attention? Why can't we just be together? Why I have to feel like this? Tell me why you leave me? Why you hurt my feeling? Why you kill my heart? Why you shut all the flame in your heart? Why can we just figure it out the solution instead of walking away from my life? Why he wants to get over me? Why you broke my heart? Why you have to destroy all my dreams with you? I had given you all my love and my soul but then you leave me? It is not fair? What am I going to be without you? Tell me what should I do with this all the love in my heart for you? I don't want to feel lonely without you, tell me what should I do? Tell me why I should be alone without you? Why you do this to me? Why you don't trust me anymore? Why you don't love me anymore? Do you still love me?
Physiological effects
When your boyfriend/girlfriend left you, you will probably feel anxiety attack, several problems such as stomach ache, frequently loss stools, loss of appetite ( in some people sometime shows increase appetite), difficult to sleep ( in some cases sometime shows increase sleeping pattern). I've experience broken heart several times and I hate to confess that I feel Fatigue, surrender, rejected, worthless,
Psychological effects
In a couple days after you broke up you will fell Nostalgia, your may will always keep thinking about him/her. Every place you go will probably remain you of him/her. Every time you listen to sad song on your Ipod, MP3 player, radio and television, it feels as if it reflects your feeling. You may suddenly cry doesn't matter where you are standing if you have a glimpse of his smile. You will more likely to be apathy (loss of interest), you also experience feel of loneliness, hopelessness and despair. And even worse, you may think that you're worthless since you have loss of self-respect and/or self-esteem and you will start to think this is the end of your life, you feel that you don't want to live any longer, you may have suicidal thoughts in your mind.
Is it danger to our heart to experience broken heart?
Even there is no evidence that shown that broken heart can cause death immediately, but studies show that expose to broken heart and suffer for a long time may lead to heart disease. Studies shown that prolonged broken heart syndrome more or less could be one of several causes of a heart attack.
How can I get over it?
If I want to get over it, what are the best things to do that could heal my heart?
Acceptance
If you want to scream, just scream for example in a beach or up in mountain (look at your surrounding). If you want to cry all night, just do it. Whatever feelings that you have just express it, don't keep it inside your heart. Take it outside, don't be ashamed crying in a bus if you want to. I was crying in a train when I had a broken heart where everybody was looking at me. Don't be afraid to express yourself, show off your feelings will make you fell better, trust me!. Be true to yourself, don't lie to your heart, talk to your heart, it will make you fell better.
