When you're a gal dating a guy who just doesn't "get who you are," what do you do? I need to be valued by my partner, made to feel feminine, sexy, beautiful and desirable. My boyfriend is totally devoid of those responses. I fell more like a sidekick or worse, the house pet who is being gently nudged out the door. I could appear in a sexy black lingerie or jeans and sweatshirt; still he would not comment. Does he even notice my presence or have I become part of the scenery?
Femininity, Without Praise, Tends to Languish Away
Is it pride that makes us withdraw so violently from guys who do not see our feminine mystique? Our charm and cunning make us the mysterious creatures that we are. When our mates do not make us feel vibrant, alive and beautiful, what should we do?
Shopping is My Solution
I bought a perfect little black dress, stunning black heels and sparkly jewelry to set off the moment. I have no prospects for romantic encounters and I don't know if the moment will ever arrive to wear my newly acquired rags but hope springs eternal!
I've tried the internet dating scene with no success. Bars, these days, are so sleazy and I'm not the church going type. My daughters want to fix me up but that seems like an unlikely solution. So, I wonder, will I just withdraw into my world of easy oneness and become dead again?
Relationships are Difficult
It's much safer and more comfortable to live in solitude. I hope that I have the strength and fortitude to meet someone new instead of crawling back into my safe comfortable shell one more time and thus losing my feminine mystique forever!
