Unconditional love is a very intriguing topic. Most religions preach this state of being as an essential to happiness. Surely it is. This kind of love teaches you to love the world as you love yourself. Isn't this what we all look for?
To love others unconditionally, the first one that you must practice with is yourself. Often we are taught not to focus on ourselves, but on others. There is no practical way to do this. To focus on others and forget about you is to enforce separation. To focus on you and forget about others is to enforce separation. We are all one. You are not disconnected from others. The things that you do for others, you do for yourself. The things that you do for yourself, you do for others.
Loving You
One of the hardest people to truly love is you. The next person I would have to say is God. There are many reasons for this. My intention is to teach you to love you to the utmost. Loving you can be easy. Once you accomplish this, then it will be easier for others to love you as well.
Find yourself beautiful. List every good thing about you. Go over this list every morning and evening. Add to this list daily, if you can. Read over the list (out loud) while looking in the mirror. The reason for this is simple. You are not separate from other people. If you wanted to sincerely appreciate another, then you would look them squarely in the eye and tell them what was great about them. This is the same thing that you will do for you.
When the feeling comes up that you are unhappy about some characteristic or trait, then stop yourself right there. Say it loud, “STOP putting you down!” Then read your beauty list to yourself. In a mirror, if you can. You won't always have to do this. These are some steps to get you started on the way to unconditional love of self.
Loving Them
Once you get the love of self together, then the love of them is already there. Remember we are all connected. We are not separate. So, when you work on your relationship with you, then automatically you work on your relationship with others.
Love for All
Next time you feel bad about yourself or disgust about another. Immediately focus all of your attention on what's good about you or the other person. This will help you to focus back onto unconditional love. If you find that you didn't get it right and you bad mouthed the other or loathed self. Its ok, just start from where you are and refocus on unconditional love all over again. It is a process that takes time. Remember… you have all the time in the world.
Be at peace.
