In this extraordinary world of dating, some of us might find that the more possibilities, the less success rates. Here are 10 practical suggestions, clip & save.
Reality Check
Ask yourself, what am I looking for? If you answered a serious relationship, some factors should be more important then others. Sense of confidence, loyalty, accountability, and a good heart are extremely important in long term relationships. Avoid shallow temptations, looks fades, wealth runs out but inner beauty lasts.
Timing
Your first date was magical and you are looking in his/her eyes ready to announce your eternal love… back off. Conversing your future plans in a general, informative way is acceptable, discussing your children's names and date of birth, isn't!
Accessibility
Looking for "the one"? Most likely that they aren't hiding in your bedroom closet... visibility is your "ticket to ride". Dress up, go out, sign up for an evening class, put yourself out there, it will happen in no time.
Clean Slate
There is one unacceptable topic for you to chat about during your dating process - your Ex! It has to be the biggest turn-off, based on a very logical line of thinking - if you feel the need to discuss your Ex, you are probably not emotionally available for new love- free your heart and the rest will follow…
So Happy Together
We all look for love, relationship and a family, nonetheless possessiveness or a needy behavior is a condition, not an implication of affection. Avoid “playing therapist” with your prospective partner, healthy relationships are based on stability & normalcy, seek it!
Gender Roles
The world has long became “an equal opportunity employer”, but some gender roles will always stay around, rightfully so. Let him open the door for you, pick up the tab and refuse her offer to share it.
First Date Sex?
Maybe not. Passion and desire are nourished by anticipation; use it to your advantage. Know when to draw the line, too little too late will not be the best policy. Let your instincts lead the way.
Compatibility
You really don't have to agree on hardwood or tile as your living room flooring, you do have to share the same ideas about the institute of marriage or having children. Serious discussions could be a drag but they might just save you a lot of time and agony, conduct them wisely...
The Game of Love
Its Saturday night and his name is blinking softly on your cell phone screen… playing hard to get is appealing, calling back a week later is rude. Nonetheless, canceling all previous engagements just to make yourself available is not a wise choice, remember, you want your partner to complete you not to take over you.
Business or Pleasure
Leave your work out of your bedroom. When building a firm relationship, it's extremely important to make yourself accessible emotionally. It doesn't mean disconnecting your cell phone, it means putting aside your “to do list” while sharing quality time together.
We spend our time, financial resources, mental energy, etc' on finding "the one" but once fortunately indulging in their presence, we forget to nourish and ignite the eternal flame of love & passion.
Today, do one loving gesture for the person you love, don't take their existence for granted.
>>5. Avoid “playing therapist” with your prospective partner
unless you're lucky enough to be dating a sex therapist!!
#3 by The L. word, Mar 26, 2008
How can an obviously intelligent person with a Ph.D. be so chauvinist in the "Gender Roles" section?! After all, it's articles like these that brainwash women to expect to be treated like inefior beings? No matter how you put it, those gestures are meant to uproot in our minds the notion women are and always will be second class citizens.
You just can't have one's cake and eat it too. If you want to be taken seriously as a PERSON, get to elect and be elected and such, you can't expect special privileges. Otherwise it makes you phoney. You somehow need to brainwash those burdensome beliefs away from yourself.
I'm not saying I wouldn't open doors for a woman. I am a nice guy so I may do it. But it's really terrible to tell women they should feel bad with themselves if they pay for a man, or to tell men they should feel bad if a woman paid for them. It's just wrong, especially in an era when women can be much higher ups than men.
It's also important for men. Let's just say that neanderthal men who beat their woman are probably more likely to also open doors for them and such.
Men will never truly respect women until they see them as their equal.
