So you just got dumped. Your skin is blotchy, eyes bloodshot, hair a mess and your friends are tactfully withdrawing as you reach for your fifth beer.Breaking up is never easy under any circumstances and the first thing to abandon you,after "he" does, is your confidence.So how do you get that back? What can you do to shrug off your feelings of inadequacy and loneliness?
Succeed at Something
The first thing to do is set a goal for yourself. Analyze your lifestyle. Can you cook a lobster? No? Perfect.Take cooking lessons.Ever played tennis? No time like the present. Speak Japanese? Play guitar? Ride on a motorcycle? You get the point-get something new to do and be determined to do it WELL.Try not to gloat when you run into his new partner who has no idea what a lobster is.
Go Crazy
It may not be the answer for everyone, but I find that a little controlled craziness can work wonders. The trick is to do something daring, that you'd be too doubtful to do under normal circumstances. Cut your hair short(I'm not talking buzz-cuts here but hey, if it works....), get a tattoo, pierce your navel, bungee-jump, sing in a karaoke bar, jump from a helicopter,travel to Tibet... the list is endless and can be modified. The key is regaining your courage and that can only be done after undergoing some kind of trial.
Bond
Yes, bond. You need to fill the gap he/she left in your life and although keeping yourself busy will help, you need to reach out to another living thing, be it a person or an animal.So make friends, even online. Maybe you didn't have time for some of your old friends while you were in the relationship and you grew apart. Get back the closeness you had before. Apologize, grovel at their feet,do whatever it takes-in the long run, friends are forever while lovers come and go. Adopt some furry little pet and name it "KILLER". Take "KILLER" walking in the park. Make friends with people who stop to admire "KILLER".
The thing to remember about survival is that it's tough, it takes time, but it has been done by a couple thousand people and they lived to talk about it-and so will YOU.
