A new, yet old song has captivated my thinking about the man I dream of ...by Trace Adkins,
From the time you were a baby, you had this notion in your head
Someone would come along and sweep you off your feet,
Like in all those story books you read,
But if you're lookin' for salvation, like some damsel in distress
Girl there ain't no heroes on white horses,
at least I ain't seen them yet
There ain't no knights in shining armor,
There ain't no never, never land,
And I won't ever walk on water
I can only love you like a man.
Heaven knows I'm no angel, just flesh and bone like all the rest
I never claimed to have a halo; all I can give you is my best
And I will never try to hurt you, or even give you thought to doubt
That my heart is yours forever
ain't that what true love's all about?
There ain't no knights in shining armor,
There ain't no never, never land,
And I won't ever walk on water
I can only love you like a man.
Oh, I won't ever walk on water, no,
I can only you like a man.
Isn't this what all us girls dream of in our lives; a gentleman on the white horse to sweep us off our feet? The man with all the right things to say, to romance us in ways we only dreamt of and to be that man that is so gentle and encouraging in our lives. For me, coming from the "country style" background I grew up in, the "Marlboro man" was the dream guy I always thought of; however, do they really exist in reality? I mean for the Texas gal this is what we grew up looking at on television, hoping for in their lives, however, what ever I am supposed to be with for my good is still up in the air, because I only want what God wants for me. However, I think they do exist, except, I have yet to discover this personality type, especially where I live. Don't get me wrong, they are there, as I live in the country where I am now, but I haven't met this one at this time. I have however in past dealt with friendships and relationships, which for the most part fit this description and even discovered they, are out there amongst us.
I have searched on this My Space site, have been on Match and even Yahoo Personals, only to be less than thrilled by the results, except for a few. In the past couple years, since my separation and divorce from my thirteen year marriage from my ex-husband, I have encountered several who seemed to be what I might have desired and even ones who would surely be "the one" and they possibly still could be if I would let my guard down, yet even they turned out to be some of my best friends who I would never chose to discard of in my life.
You know the dating game isn't all that is cracked up to be, especially at my age…however if I was a bit younger as some of my girlfriends I have come to know, I don't even know if it would be easier, as in reading their blogs, it seems to be the same for them. So if any of you men out there has any ideas, please inform me and them on this subject. In as much as you gents seem to think us women are so obscure to relate to, remember, we ladies think the same of you from time to time. I mean look at what we have to deal with on a daily basis; the "plastic" type women, the fakes, the ones who will willingly just give in to your advances at the slightest "dreamy" words you put out to them. Then you have us "real" types; the ones who say what they mean and mean what they say, yet are smart to your famous one liners you try to throw out to us, the ones who just know by watching you from afar are the "players" and we choose to steer far from you as much as possible, yet there is that "dangerous" aspect that still draws us, for reasons we have no idea why, yet we still are in waiting for that sweet gentleman, who wants us for who we are on the inside and not for what you seem to visualize on the outside. Wake up men; we are so much deeper than that! We have a soul, a heart, emotions and we know how to love deeply.
Get the message, we truly want to be loved and want to love someone ourselves…however, do you want the same from us? Sure you do and you want the "real" woman in your life. So why is it so hard to develop these true lasting loving relationships? I think Deirks Bentley says it best in one of his songs…"Must be doing something right"; "A woman is a mystery"… "All it takes is the touch of my hand", and that's it men, just learn to touch us, gently and just love us for who we are, right at that moment, not for what you hear from all the other guys, as it can persuade you in many other directions over time. Remember, we women are not the perfect creation, you are…we were only created from you, to guide, to direct in the right direction, to take us under your wing in a gentle manor and most of all to learn what love is all about.
On the Day of Judgment, you are the one who will be ultimately responsible for your responsibility for us, your children and many other things, just something to ponder.
Maybe this was a hard thing to read, but my duty as a woman and as a writer is to activate you to think deeply. I want to be remembered as the woman who causes people to reevaluate their lives and to act on it. Maybe I can stir you up, maybe I can stir up myself to think even more about changing things in my own life, but at any rate I am doing what I know I am called to do. I so long to hear from any of you who so desire to give me feedback on this and maybe it will even help me over time.
