Will contacting this person put an end to your thinking about him or her?
You may have ended the relationship badly and you just want to get some things off your chest. If so, you may need to be your own personal prophet and see how your confession will affect your future. Reaching out to an ex, may cause you to do or say something that you know you shouldn't and if your current mate doesn't know what you are up to, he or she may walk out on you.
Did you ever have closure with this past relationship?
Considering the advice given in the previous paragraph, you may want to carefully think whether contacting the ex for closure is necessary and if you must, don't speak to him or her in a private, intimate setting. Send a card, letter, email, or speak over the phone to communicate your thoughts. These ways are the best to avoid tempting situations. Also, you may want to tell your current mate, but if he or she doesn't feel secure in the relationship, you may want to reconsider opening that door with the ex.
Are you contacting your ex whether secretly or openly?
If you sincerely want to move on with your life with your current mate, why are you conversing with the ex? People who are sincerely over their exs, remove themselves from any situation, thing, location or anything else that still connects he or she to the ex when they are sincerely over him or her. People who have children by the ex have no choice but to contact he or she when the children are young, but they should avoid talking or doing anything that stimulates old feelings. When you find yourself being tempted, get off the phone, avoid outings, visits and phone calls with your former in-laws, picking up or dropping the children off alone and inviting your ex to private places such as your home.
When you take precautions to avoid those pesky thoughts about your ex by safeguarding your current relationship, your new mate will not only love and respect you, but will feel more secure with you. Yet, there are those people in relationships that do not attempt to make their current mates feel secure when it comes to relating to the ex; therefore, there existing relationships are doomed to failure and every relationship afterward until they sincerely make their ex and ex!
