You Better Get Rid of Him and Get Back to Being You

Valentine season is here and there’s tangible love in the air. The lover’s world really is for the bold. How do you ensure that you are in a constructively loving relationship and not a destructive one?

First and foremost, you ought to have a deep, unapologetic love for yourself. To do this, you start by getting to know yourself thoroughly and being fairly certain about what you want in a relationship. You should also develop an unshakeable confidence in yourself that you can get what you want.

Don’t hold on to a destructive relationship. It’s very demeaning to your psyche and it’s just not worth it. Are you a naturally large-framed BBW but he’s constantly harping on you to slim down? Does he want you to do a breast enlargement (herbal aided or otherwise)? Is he in the habit of comparing you with other women – even if subtly? Honey, this is the ideal time to take some drastic actions.

Yes, you do have some weaknesses; we all do and that includes him. After all, he’s not exactly Mr. Universe and there are things in his physical make-up as well as in his personality that you would have liked to be somewhat different. But you don’t go around badgering him about them, do you? And that’s because you truly love him. Well why can’t he treat you the same way?

Believe me, there’s something about the Valentine season that rewards a true love thirst. Cupid is very active at this time and he’s constantly searching for a genuine love seeker. If you have the courage and self belief to drop that goon on time, Cupid is sure to hand you a real Prince Charming; one who will deeply appreciate your true worth.

But then, fair’s fair; so let’s give him one more chance. I have a test that you should make him take which will let you know whether to keep him or change him. The test and the expected results are presented as follows:

1. Print out this article
2. Use a pair of scissors to cut off the lower part neatly, starting from “But then, fair’s fair . . .” (you need to do this because we don’t want him to know he’s taking a test).
3. Casually show him the upper part saying you “found this scrap lying somewhere and you’re just curious to know what he thinks about it”
4. The following are his four possible reactions after reading it:
   
   • a) He gets angry and asks you what’s the big idea
   • b) He doesn’t show his anger, but you can just feel him smoldering silently
   • c) He laughs it off as a joke and instantly forgets about it
   • d) He becomes very gentle and quietly asks if you’d like to have a talk about the article

There can be variants of these actions, but these are essentially the four possible responses. You should be able to interpret the one you receive based on your knowledge of him.

Well, you should only consider keeping him if his response is (d). Any other response is a signal that he doesn’t really appreciate you. It’s time to seriously consider changing him!

Don’t forget to tear off the test part so as not to let the scat (I mean the cat) out of the bag!

PLEASE NOTE:

This article is only meant for relationships that have not resulted in marriage. It is in no wise encouraging divorce. In fact, one of its objectives is to prevent the pain and anguish of a defectively founded marriage which would inevitably end up in divorce.

If you are already married, thorough counseling will let you know if your marriage can still be salvaged or you need to work towards a divorce. We also have an article that tells you “How to Re-inject Romance into a Moribund Marriage”. You should definitely check that out.

Good Luck!