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1.Good communication after sex.
A surprise here. Men actually want women to cuddle the before they rush off to the bathroom to clean up, a sign that the age of the “New Man” really exists. Many man like a bit of chit-chat at this point as well, so this would be a good time to say how much you enjoyed the whole experience.
2. Help with his erection.
This means working with your man, and not against him. You are emotionally involved with him and not just lying there keeping silent score in your head or waiting for him to prove something. Show him tenderness and affection as well as passion.
3. Candour
This means honesty about your sexual and physical health. One man had performed oral sex on his partner, only to be told later that she was menstruating! Another mad had used his partner’s bathroom after sex, only to discover her STD (sexually transmitted disease) appointment card lying for all the world to see on top of the toilet. Let him know if there are reasons when sex would not be ideal and you really would prefer to have a cup of tea instead. It may be embarrassing for you, as a women, to tell all, so may be just saying “It’s the wrong time of the month”, will be enough. However, it is possible to have sex during your period, if you so desire, by using a diaphragm, which temporarily holds back the flow of blood. It is, as they say, all a matter of taste.
4. A sense of humour.
It’s too easy to get all “intense” about sex, especially if we want it to be perfect. The stress this place on a couple can actually cause things to go wrong. Humour can lighten the situation and take the heat off.
5. For you to take your time.
The occasional quickie aside, try to avoid frantic sex that finishes too quickly. Believe it or not, most men don’t want this either! Example: The Sunday scenario where you to have to finish quickly so that you can both get a good night’s sleep for the next day’s work.
6. A woman who is not a dead fish.
A women should show that she is responsive from the word go. Let him know you are aroused by the way you move and what you say. This also means you appreciate what is being done to you, and are not too embarrassed to say, “I like that”. Speak to him, or indicated in non-verbal ways, by putting his hand or fingers in the right place. “Slower”, “faster”, “harder”, “softer”, may be all the vocabulary you need, but you’ll be telling him a lot.
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7. For you to give pleasure as well as receive it.
Making love is a two-way process. Despite all our talk about sexual equality, this is a society that still experts a man to make all the first moves. So it is a relief and a pleasure for men to be able to just lie back and enjoy sex occasionally. A woman’s willingness to give her lover pleasure always gets his vote.
8. Spontaneity
A woman who cab go with the flow and have sex at a moment’s notice without making a lame excuse (provided the setting isn’t totally off-putting), is a real turn-on to most men. So what if you’ve got your best dress on, you‘re on your lunch hour, etc – none of this really matters to the average guy.
9. For you to role-play.
Many man like to act out fantasies to spice up their love life, be it watching their partner dance in front of them in sexy lingerie and doing a slow strip, to tying them (gently!) to the bedposts with silk scarves. Coax your man into telling you what his fantasies are (those that involve only you and him, and do not involve any discomfort or pain for either of you). It may be a fantasy that doesn’t exactly turn you on, but which you would be willing to try for him.
10. Head-to-toe cleanliness
A man likes a woman to smell good – just as much as she appreciates a man smelling good – and vaginal hygiene is simply being considerate to your partner. The best way round this is to have a bath with your partner before having sex, and to leave the mouth fresheners or mouthwash next to the toothpaste.
11. Sex in the morning.
Most men never get that early morning erection satisfied, but when they do, boy, are they grate full. Girls, it might be worth getting to bed a bit earlier the night before, just to set him up for the day.
12. A good massage.
By this we mean a neck and shoulder massage to relax him after a hard day at work and as a prelude to sex. You don’t need to be a trained masseuse to give a good back rub. The trick is to use slow, deep strokes – going too lightly or too quickly is the main problems. Always use oil because dry rubbing can be painful.
13. A responsive partner.
Although this criteria overlaps with number six on the emotional list, this is specifically about physical movement and making some noise rather than simply a matter of receptive attitude. In fact, “shouters” are appreciated, especially when they approach and then experience orgasm, as this signals her enjoyment and his success in getting her there.
14. You to take control… at times.
It doesn’t have to be the guy who is dominant all the time. In fact, guy love being submissive sometimes. This desire also includes good sexual technique; a woman who knows what she is doing, or at least act as if she does, is a terrific turn-on.
15. Quick sex for him… sometimes.
Occasionally, a man enjoys quick sex aimed at pleasuring just him, without long, involved foreplay and having to make sure his partner comes first.
