Don't date someone that doesn't share your belief in abstinence.
By doing this you are setting yourself up for a fall right from the get go. It may seem that none of the Christian girls/guys are hot or even fun. But two can not walk unless they agree. It's harder for someone on the ground to pull down someone on a ladder than vice versa.
There have been some girls that I have had a thing for, and I had a chance with them if I made the move, but because I knew they didn't share my stand ,and as much as it hurt( and boy did it hurt) I kept my relationship platonic. We can't give into every attraction or desire we have .
Never let yourself be in a place that you have no chance of being disturbed.
The classic sexual invitation we see on television and in the movies, is “ my parents are out of town, we have the whole place to ourselves” that pretty much speaks for it's self. Besides, something creepy like an axe wielding psychopath usually shows up anyway, so to be for warned is to be forearmed, lol.
Be careful what you let in through your eye and ear gates.
Increasingly in the past few years , television is becoming more and more "liberal". The most successful shows in recent years have a 87% sex premise, from Sex and The City, to Desperate Housewives, to the more recent The Tudors and Skins, Sex has become an Olympics sport to which lead characters are competing for gold medals.
When we continuously watch shoes like those it gives us the idea that it's a normal part of life and behaviour. Promiscuity is glorified and the consequences of such a life are never shown .
The songs and radio shows we also listen have the same great effect. Listening to shows were people are talking about how many people they've slept with in the last month , is definitely not healthy listening. Neither is it listening to artist who tell you "i don't see nothing wrong, with a little bump and grind". Point of note, that artist is still having court issues, because of a certain video of his that made its way to the internet.
Realize that a relationship is a lot more than making out and knocking boots.
A lot of relationships have a “strong” foundation based on their physical attraction and desire for each other, but if you take away all that what is left. What else draws you to that person except wanting to lock lips(and other parts) with them? Is there anything else that will keep you two going? I've always had the policy that no matter how hot a girl is , and no matter how much we dig each other, if there is no foreseeable future, other than I think you're cute, I know you think I'm cute too, let's go out. I don't bother.
If all else fails, you have legs, use them. It worked for Joseph , it will work for you. Don't stay there and try to be cool. GUYS, don't try and be "the man" cool calm and collected when you are about to get burnt.
I'm no expert when it comes to relationships, so you really don't have to take anything I'm saying seriously, but I've learnt that we often know the truth deep down inside before anyone else ever tells us.
There can NEVER be an alternative to Sex Education.
There just cannot be one, because even if you follow with your beliefs you will need Sex Education when you do come to the end of your journey finally and get married and go to have sex. You will still need the knowledge at this point.
So, there can never be an alternative to Sex Education, EVER, if we ever want to get rid of or subdue the problems we have in this world related to sex.
#2 by Lucien, Mar 25, 2008
Thanks Lazen
I didn\'t suggest that there should not be sex education, my issue is with the people that claim Abstinence does not work, thereby sex ed is the only way. Abstinence should also be taught, and not written off like most people are suggesting. The only way that abstinence does not work is if someone goes out and has sex.
Everyone has a choice, either to let Abstinence work for them or not. Those that choose that abstinnce is not for them ,that\'s fine. They should just admit that they lke sex too much to give it up , instead of claiming abstinence does not work
Teaching kids that they can have sex with whoever they want as long as they use \"protection\" is not only morally wrong but teaches nothing about character and self control . If a guy had a wide variety while he was single and could not control himself then, do you really thing a ring is suddenly going to stop him from having a variety in marriage .
Abstinence helps build character to a certain extent, not absolutley but it helps.
#3 by Pete Macinta, Mar 28, 2008
Good article! You have made some good suggestions on how to abstain. May God bless you!
#4 by elaine, Jun 2, 2008
Good article. I commend you on stepping out on what most people do avoid!
#5 by Kellie, Aug 5, 2008
I loved this article. I also wanted to comment that your body has a natural cycle and there are times of the month that a woman can and cannot become pregnant. By practicing abstaining from sex before marriage a couble can also practice abstatining from sex during marriage at certain times of the month if the couple does not thing they are ready to have a child. We were created to choose to have sex when we a) are open and willing to have children b) we want to show our marital love. Sex education meaning condoms, is educating humans that they cannot control their desires or urges and should simply run from the consequences. This is not what God teaches and should not be taught.
There just cannot be one, because even if you follow with your beliefs you will need Sex Education when you do come to the end of your journey finally and get married and go to have sex. You will still need the knowledge at this point.
So, there can never be an alternative to Sex Education, EVER, if we ever want to get rid of or subdue the problems we have in this world related to sex.