A 35 years old man loves his wife. He always tries to find new ways to give her sexual satisfaction. He is scared that his wife would leave him if she is not satisfied. He also mentioned that he stimulates the clitoris, the most sensitive part of the female sex organ. He is also eager to know if there are ways to make his wife satisfied during sex.
Scientific Study:
Mr. Eppy Gochangco is a sex psychotherapist and counselor. He tries to correct the misconception of lots of men who stimulates the female sex organ. As he narrated, the external part of the female sex organ is called vulva, which means “wrapper” in Latin. It is comprised of mons veneris, labia majora, and labia minora.
The mons veneris is the area that covers the front of the body, which is below the abdomen and above the clitoris. This helps cushion the female during sexual intercourse and it has nerve ending that derive pleasure when caressed.
The labia majora is the part that covers the labia minora, the urethral, and vagina openings. Like mons veneris, the labia majora also has enough nerve endings that can be stimulated to derive pleasure.
The labia minora is the part that surrounds the urethral and vaginal openings. The labia minora is rich in blood vessels and nerve endings and is highly sensitive to sexual stimulation. When that part is stimulated, it is engorged with blood and thus darkened. It is like the penis that becomes swollen with blood when stimulated, and thus achieves erection.
The function of the clitoris is to give pleasure, unlike the penis, which serves as vessel to bring the forth semen. Like the glands of the penis, the clitoris is highly sensitive because of a rich supply of nerve endings. Some women preferred to be stimulated on the mons or clitoral hood, the part that covers clitoris because it can be unpleasant if it is directly stimulated.
The breasts can also be stimulated during sexual intercourse. It can also achieve satisfaction to women during sexual intercourse. And, it has nerve endings. Therefore, the clitoris is not the only part of the female organ that gives women pleasure.
In the clinical practice of Eppy Gochangco, the Philippine's well known sex psychotherapist and counselor; he noticed that most of his patients who are women are not fully satisfied with their husband during sexual intercourse as it is only part of obligation or routine. Therefore, the subject also falls in this category. The subject has lots of insecurities and fears which may result in driving his wife away from him.
Recommendation:
Both husband and wife must have an open communication as they exchanged their point of views to each other instead of trying to use sex to keep the partner. Relationship must be founded in love, truth and loyalty. And, sex should not be the tool to have self-esteem and to become the primary objective of the relationship. Emotional tenderness such as hugging and kissing can also satisfy both partners as Mr. Eppy Gochangco advised to his patients.
