Do you really want to know how many sex partners I've had? When discussing sex with your partner you should think about it. Think about how and what you will be talking about. He/she may ask you questions you may not be prepared to discuss or even answer. When talking about sex, should you provide a brief explanation or a more in depth explanation to your mate? You may want provide a brief answer that is the best policy, in this case. Why? If you are not prepared for a mountain to fall down on you at the bottom of the hill, then stand on a different hill so you may have a different perspective on things. (Simplemente diga papi/mami yo de eso no quiero hablar)
First, you may want to let your partner bring up the conversation, never be the one to start this topic unless you're ultimately ready for truth and acceptance. When discussing the past most of us are shocked, yet we all have a past and desire a future. When talking about the past, we may want to keep in mind that every single one of us has a past whether it's dirty, freaky, sweet or squeaky clean. We all need to have a past to appreciate who we are in the present and in our coming future. When sex derives as a subject most of us are not prepared to speak openly, for the mere fact that our parents may have never discussed sex with us.
As women we are extremely different from men, men are always three steps ahead of us when it comes to sex, so women; you may not want to know how many partners your mate has had in the past. Women in today's society you are not far behind men, so men may not want to know either. If you're prepared to be challenge go ahead. If you are not ready to accept reality of one human past, don't start something that may bring you more harm than good. Straightforward explanations may lead to argument and jealousy. In reality no partner needs to know all details of your entire life, it may in fact bring burden, discomfort, impact and deterioration to perfectly fine relationship before this discussion ever arises.
On a mature level you may provide a simple answer in an around about way, a way you can provide comfort to you and your mate. If they feel it's of importance and they need to know how many partners you've had in the past. Simplify question by simply saying do you have any more questions, so your mate doesn't have to pull teeth. Just accept, believe, trust and respect without making indications. Not ready for the truth, than wait for a better time to discuss this subject if a must. (Plan for a conversation so it appears smoothly, after you can always go for a walk to cool down). Detailed sex conversation of the past is established to be a difficult conversation, so remember to be compassionate and understanding. If at all possible avoid sex talk, unless you're talking about your present relationship.
