Sex is a big part of a healthy relationship. It’s healthy for people to have sex at least three times a week, in a physical respect. Sex is a natural thing for couples to partake in, why do you think our bodies tell us these things on their own?
Sexual appetites in a relationship have to match somewhat at least. Someone wouldn’t want to get married and then find out that their partner is asexual, when they definitely aren’t. It would put tremendous strain on the relationship, until it just wasn’t going to work out any longer.
People shouldn’t get married just to be able to have sex. Which is what you come across in young people who’s family has frowned upon sexual relations until certain things are in order. Not being with other people sexually before they get married, could put a lot of doubt or misinterpreted feelings or thoughts into someone’s mind. Say if you got married and were a virgin till now…. wouldn’t you wonder what it would be like to be with another person sexually. Of course all people think these things anyways even if they have had sex before marriage, I’m just saying that the people who haven’t experienced sexual relations with anyone other than their partner could lead them to stray easier.
Why should kids be made to swear an oath of abstinence at a young age. I realise the families don’t believe that they are making them swear it, but really what do the young people have to go by. The fact that it will make their parents happy if they do, and the fact that they think the whole situation of sex is gross at that age, makes things pretty easy for them to not care and swear to be abstinent. Should these families really be doing this, it seems fine now, but when these children grow up they know or think that they will be looked down upon if they bring up the subject of sex before marriage. Therefore they don’t bring it up, and because of this they don’t get the information they need to safely have intercourse. Which most likely they will have any ways, because that’s what their bodies want them to do. This can lead to problems like unwanted pregnancy, and transmitted infections, that could have been easily avoided.
Knowing ones sexual side before entering a long-term relationship is a good thing. It allows one to look for people who share the same sexual thoughts as they do, and have the same sort of outlook on sexual situations. It’s always good to know that you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to personal things.
Personally I don’t think abstinence is a very good idea, it’s one thing if you have experienced something and decided to not partake in it again, but its another to try to withhold other individuals from something that naturally occurs. People just need to be informed about the situations that may arise, and know how to take precautions in order to keep themselves safe. As a parent that is the best thing you can do for your children, is just give them the information they need, and let them decide on their own time. Even if you yourself had premarital relations and now realise that you think it was silly that you did. Your child will not be able to make this decision for themselves unless they go through the same steps as you have.
but it is still wrong.
Can you honestly say you'd be ok knowing that the person you want to marry had been "testing the waters" with multiple partners before you? get real,
premarital sex takes away from the intimacy that is supposed to be there, it makes the activity less special because it has all been done before.
As for the notion that abstinent people are more likely to stray,
they don't miss what they haven't had and are in fact LESS likely to stray, where as somebody who has fornicated with multiple partners is never going to be truly satisfied with just one.
Fornication is wrong for a reason, as for sexual desire and two people being on the same page when they get married,they can adapt to each other, If their motive is Love then they will.
Abstinence IS the answer