This is not a good combination for a husband and wife but it is happening. A man may be impotent for so many reasons. Having no erection may be due to a small or deformed male sex organ or his sexual desires is crippled by disease like diabetes or some doctors said it can also be a disorder of the spinal cord.
Emotional factors can also contribute to the condition; impotence can also stem from a deep-rooted psychological problem which could have started from childhood fixations, other forms of neurosis, and nervous tension. If there are other reasons of impotence aside from symptoms of diabetes, it can be corrected by surgery, psychotherapy, or by taking vitamins. For those who have diabetes - proper nutrition, well-balanced meal, and exercise will help.
On the part of women, like impotence - frigidity is often the result of psychological factors that also could have started in childhood days. The condition may manifest itself in many different and several ways. There are women who do not have any sexual urge for reason or another while others have very strong desire but find little satisfaction from the act itself. Frightening sex experiences can contribute to frigidity. There are cases in which strong religious value without realizing that sex is a part of the obligation of wife to her husband, and that it is also a part of the divine plan - it then developed an indifferent attitude towards sex.
Ignorance about sex, inadequate, and improper education may also result to unwarranted fear of sex, pregnancy, and motherhood. Women who experience these therefore consider sex as an unpleasant marital obligation. If a woman is taught from childhood that sex is sinful and shameful - she would grow up with this idea in her mind, which will lead later in life to marital problems and will cripple her own sexual appetite. If sex is being enjoyed by people outside marriage, more so by husband and wife - it is a wonderful gift from God. Couples who continue to have sex especially up until their latter years are apt to maintain healthier conditions.
These conditions do not mean that sex cannot be enjoyed by people experiencing it. There are remedies or ways to deal with this. If both are willing then sex is ultra possible throughout the years. In fact there are reports that men who have active sex life lives up to 90 years old and so with women. Reports even documented that there are few males who have produced children at age 97 while there are women as old as 57 have delivered normal babies. But for elderly couples whose enthusiasm for sex has not diminished, time will come that nature will remind them of the limits in their bodies and eventually they will receive warning signs.
In most cases, it is the male who first realizes this because women are said to withstand the onslaughts of old age better. Men should be ready in the reality that whether he likes it or not, he will become impotent in the long run because of age and when he reaches this point in life - there is little possibility that science or medicine like Viagra can do. By this time he has to admit that his body is also subject to wear and tear and other stresses of everyday living.
Poor health may account for the early gradual deterioration of sex organs, the sex appetite for women, and the impotence of men. Despite of this, a lot live to a ripe old age and still enjoy good health and colorful sex life in their advanced years. Impotence may simply be an attitude of the mind for others because there have been records of men remaining sexually active though old and grey. There is a saying that a man would not become impotent as long as he has a willing partner and that the two do not lose mutual understanding and interest in sex.
In women, the changes that have something to do with sex and old age begin with the onset of menopause between the ages of 45 to 50. Following the decrease in the manufacture of estrogens, the female sex hormones, the tissues involved also gradually deteriorate. But if only women would learn to adjust to her change of life and make everything possible to prevent her genitals from deteriorating, she can still enjoy sex regardless of age.
Other scientists believe however that the lack of sex hormones is not the ones directly responsible for one's deteriorating reproductive system. What they did is they focused their concentration on certain neuro-chemicals in the brain which when produced in large amounts may make elderly couples to have normal children.
In cases where deterioration is the result of the ovary's failure to provide glandular secretions that maintain the female body and its functions - solution can be found in the use of estrogenic hormones which may help women overcome these and other symptoms of menopause. These hormones can be administered by injection or orally. A study made on the effects of these hormones on 11 elderly women ages 54 to 89 showed that they developed a new interest in their appearance and improved abilities.
There might not be medical or scientific remedy to combat frigidity on the part of a woman but the blame also should not be focused on her upbringing. There are instances when frigidity is caused by the husband himself. There are several proven instances that it is not really the absence of the sex urge but the suppression of erotic feelings that causes frigidity.
A clumsy or an inexperienced husband may not properly arouse his wife and this causes her to remain unresponsive to the sex act. In this particular scenario, the woman's frigidity is caused by her failure to respond to her husband's sexual approach or stimulation. In order to achieve satisfaction, a husband should either correct or change his approach. A strap-on thing with an artificial erected male organ attached to it is available in the market that can be purchased by an impotent husband in order to satisfy the needs of his wife. Remember that it is up for the man to awaken the woman's impulses in order to develop her responses without necessarily forcing yourself to her.
While it is true that sexual capacity diminishes with age, there should be no actual direct relation between frigidity, the onset of menopause, and being impotent to husband and wife married life. You should not allow these abnormal conditions to hinder and affect your relationship. Consult a doctor, read books that discusses these symptoms and since frigidity is governed by several factors then it is curable. Its causes can be identified through proper steps.
Husband and wife should bear in mind that sexual response in unison is important to marital harmony.
