Idea for the Best Protection From STDs and Pregnancy

What is the reason for all of these faulty marriages?” If you ask me about relationships in today’s world I would tell you that they are at times extremely physical and sexually dependent. In fact a big part of why the divorce rate is so high is because lots of people are getting married just to satisfy their sexual needs rather than for the reason of true love, devotion, and commitment. Divorce rates could be dramatically reduced if sex was non existent.

If you’ve ever attended high school then you have most likely witnessed this scenario: A couple has sex, the girl gets pregnant and the couple ends up marrying for the sake of the child. Glad they decided to get together for the good welfare of the child, but you can see how the situation might have forced them in to marriage sooner than they would of even thought about it. The reason why they are now marrying originates with sex along with a mistake. There are lots of marriages that are existent because something like this happened. Unfortunately the divorce rate for this type of marriage is 68%.

The world is different from how it used to be. In the past daughters were watched over well and not allowed to have much of a relationship with a man until the two were married. In an article by Stephanie Coontz she explains how marriage is not valued as much anymore and how disposable it has become. Today I see couples moving in with each other, sleeping with each other, and generally moving fast in their relationships. No wonder many couples are egger to get married; they have already hoped on all the other big stepping stones, so it’s really the only achievement left to grab. I have a friend who is still in high school. She’s been dating a guy for about a month now, and they are getting engaged.

When couples speed through the relationship, not allowing enough time to get to know each other on a truly inner level and get to sex too fast, two realizations might be found. The first realization that these couples might find is that by moving fast they weren'’t able to savor the moments and really watch the relationship grow. The second thing couples may realize later on in the relationship (even during marriage) is how incompatible they actually are once all of the sexual drive and excitement about doing something new is gone.

So if sexuality is the problem imagine this. Imagine a world where no one had sexual desires. A world where the only desire was to find a soul mate, someone who truly understands you and enjoys being with you. Without sexual tension in relationships there would be no reason to rush into marriage. People would marry because they know that their partner is the one not because they are sexually attracted to each other.

Now my proposal of how to eliminate sexuality is quite simple. A law could be made that all current US citizens along with any new born babies must have their sexual organs disabled. Before doing this though, all Americans who desire a child in the future would deposit an efficient amount of egg and semen for later test-tube birth. This plan of action has many advantages in my eyes and does have some disadvantages, but over all I know it could help people marry for the right reasons and stay together for eternity as intended therefore dramatically dropping the divorce rate.

The only way this idea would work is if the process was made mandatory. The whole point of the process is to eliminate the ability to have intercourse. Therefore men would have to get their penises removed and women would have to go through a procedure known as vaginal obliteration. Vaginal obliteration is a process in which a woman’s vagina is sown shut. Having children once married would still be possible if a married couple decides they would like children. The way this is made possible is by storing sperm and egg cells in a bank before the process is undergone. Then when a couple wishes to have children scientists will be able to birth the baby in a lab.

I have a friend who is still in high school. She’s been dating a guy for about a month now, and they are getting engaged. One of the main reasons for the quick engagement so early on in the relationship is the fact that he does not want to have sex until he is married. I think this is obviously a bad reason to get married to someone. If my idea was enforced then I’m sure my friend would get to know the guy a lot better and eventually marry him for the right reasons which would lead to a happy and long lasting marriage.

A lot of people may disagree with me and say that we can control our sexual behavior and marry for the right reasons. There are some people in this would that do end up marrying for the right reasons and do live long happy lives together, but over all I don’t think people can do it on their own. The way I see it as long as sexuality exists it will always be a factor in the decisions we make and the way we behave. A person can start off having good intentions to get to know their partner and really wait for sex, but lets face it the pressure to have sex many times overrides peoples morals and intentions.

My idea is not one hundred percent non fiction, but the process actually being possible is not the point. There could be a better way of disabling sexual tension between men and women, but understand that the main objective would be to move sexuality out of the way to make room for a relationship based on caring, understanding, and how well a couple gets along. The thought of how easy life could be with relationships built more like friendships are seems nice. Maybe someday we will actually live like that.