If you know what's coming, there's no excitement, no element of surprise and none of the adrenaline rush we associate with sex. A lot of us complain that our sex lives has lost its sparkle, but have no fear; there are definitely ways to get that died and gone to heaven sex back in the equation. What you need to do is build on the sex your already having, except take it one step further...
Some of us like it a bit rough. So why not try being tied up, or even some light S&M? If you like it rough, light bondage is a great way of exploring new territory. It is an incredibly common fantasy for women who like to feel dominated. For some women spanking is as good as taking Viagra, because it boosts adrenaline and can even make you come quicker.
If you want to get inspired, you can even try watching porn. A lot of women watch porn with their partners, whether it's dirty DVDs or even online smut. However, if you want to take it one step further why not try having sex in front of the mirror? We get turned on by porn because a lot of us imagine ourselves as the actors in the film, so a strategically placed mirror will give you that same horny hit. Or you could even make your own home movie, making your own slick flick can give you a total thrill. Do what you feel comfortable with, take turns holding the camera, or set the camera up on a tripod. Make sure you change positions regularly for visual variety. Then, sit back and enjoy at leisure.
Some of us would get really turned on by spontaneous sex. So, why not take it outside the bedroom? Always having sex in the same place is a disaster for your sense of satisfaction...By never allowing the back drop to change, you're not adding to your sexual senses. First step, ban sex in the bedroom. It may be a bit awkward at first, but you'll soon have the confidence after you get a bit of practice, even if it's only on the sofa! For some of you, taking outside can add to the thrill. The idea of being spotted by someone adds to incredible sex, because we think of it as ‘naughty'. However, remember sex outdoors is illegal, but if you can get away with it, why not?
