If the porn industry's fate had depended on women, it would not be the wonderful family entertainment it is today. Why?
Men want to see, women need to feel. There is no feel in porn.
Don't get me wrong, some women enjoy a little porn, but not for the reason that a man does. They are not watching to see a closeup shot naked body parts. They are listening to the words and sounds of the "actors", watching the chemistry and interaction between the participants, imagining themselves in the scenario that created this opportunity for sex, getting off to the emotional ecstasy being shown on the faces of the "lovers".
Does she get angry if you fast forward through the face shots in order to get to the real stuff? Have you ever known a woman to try and see the naked bodies through the jumbled picture of a scrambled porn channel. Guys, you've done it. She thinks you're a moron... because she gets nothing out of a two second shot of a naked body part. You do.
How many men's magazines are there that feature picture's of beautiful sexy women? How many women's magazines feature pictures of gorgeous, ripped guys?
So she's not visual, what senses does she use in order to get sexually excited? All the rest of them.
If you really want to create sexual energy in your lady, appeal to every sense she has, and most of your effort should be to the environment not the act itself.
If you can't do anything else, do this.
Candles. Strategically placed scented, candles. There is no such thing as too many. There should be no other lighting. A fireplace is the Samurai Love God of candles... make use of its power.
There is only one scent if you wish to maximize the sexual affect for her. Vanilla.
I'm not going to make an effort to convince you of this or argue with any ladies personal preferences... but it's true and it's proven. Vanilla.
With candles you have taken care of the lighting, but should you not have candles, pay attention to the ambiance of the lighting you do have. Your environment should glow not shine. Think sunset not sunshine. There should be shadows. The lighting should be evenly spaced so no area is noticeably brighter than another. She should not be able to read with this light, but she must be able to see your face well enough to read the love/lust in your eyes.
Sound. The most important sound she can hear is your voice. Your voice telling her how incredible you feel when you look at her, how her hair shines like moonlight, how her skin is softer and smoother then oriental silk, how her eyes melt your soul. Don't just tell her she looks pretty or beautiful (and if you say she looks hot I will personally come kick your butt). Describe how she makes you feel, how she feels to you. There is NO WHERE ELSE that you could even imagine being except with her, now.
Music? Ok. But you had better KNOW what kind. Don't guess. It could be anything, and there is really only one way to know for certain. You may not have access to this information but if you do... if she listens to music, not just the radio, but specific music that she picked out, if she listens to music when she takes a "relaxing" bath... you know the kind... then that is the music to play for love. Can't believe I'm giving this out for free.
Last thing. Touch her. Before you're naked stupid. A gentle but firmly placed hand on the small of her back, a hug from behind(resist the urge...you know what I'm talking about), caress her cheek with the back of your hand and smile, kisses to the nape of her neck, the tips of her fingers, her eyelids while her eyes are closed, her ears (keep your tongue in your mouth moron) while you whisper your affection. Don't grope her... touch her.
The minute you saw her in that little black dress, you were ready. Follow these basic guidelines and she will be melting by the time you have her in your arms. Sexually, she very well might be partially visual too, but she is definitely everything else. Excite her mind, her senses and her body will follow without objection.
