The emotional sexual is easily overwhelmed by the attention paid by the physical and will withdraw in order to protect himself from what may feel almost like an assault. The physical, sensing rejection, comes forward, closing the gap, but ultimately making the emotional feel pursued, and not in a good way. The emotional tends to derive much satisfaction from individual pursuits, career, hobbies and individual sports (running, weight training, swimming) and at times can seem to be able to exist alone. This wreaks havoc with the physical, who needs constant reassurance and connection, and cannot fathom living without that constant interaction.
The list could be extended indefinitely, showing complementary traits in physical and emotional sexual behavior. In summary, it is worth noting that physical sexual males and females use their bodies as a defense against emotion. For them a thought will produce a physical sensation which will then produce an emotion. For emotional sexual males and females, a thought will produce an emotion which will then produce a physical sensation. Physicals are generally in tune with their bodies and use them expressively and to externalize their emotions, thereby releasing them. Emotionals guard their bodies, internalizing their emotions as a means of self-protection, and are generally not as in tune with their bodies.
Keep in mind that there is no one right or better way to be, either with respect to suggestibility or sexuality (behavior). The two paths of development are complementary, not oppositional, and function in the same way as the two genders. Together, they allow for compatible behavior and for screening those with whom we would no be compatible.
Although it would seem logical to assume that emotionals would seek out and attract other emotionals, the fact is that emotionals find themselves attracted to physicals and vice versa. If two physicals spend too much time together, they end up competing with each other, both wanting attention and needing reassurance rather than giving it. Two emotionals would cancel each other out, each withdrawing and seeking solitude. Thus the physical draws out and inspires the emotional and the emotional tones down the physical, at least in an ideal relationship.
An awareness of these complementary developmental learning and behavioral differences aids in predicting and understanding relational dynamics. In this way, we can understand and not personalize the behaviors of our friends, lovers and family, while at the same time we are able to modify our behavior to allow us to better adapt to the situations in which we find ourselves.
