True Love Waits

Excellent topic. More people should speak up about this. I, for one, will. You inspire me, A.writer. Thank you!

I won't knock your beliefs but let's just get something straight. Disease and heartbreaks can be caused by a good many other things too. Self-respect and self control are not jumping into bed with every gf on your first date. Pregnancies can be prevented with contraception as you well know. Love-making within the confines of marriage doesn't always work. The experience of finding out together relies on patience from both partners.

look, sex is meant for marriage, period. Contraception has a low success rate and there are more people with STD's the ever before so paul, don't knock the article, I agree the experience of finding out together takes patience from both sides, but it doesn' change the fact that sex outside of marriage is wrong.

Um, Rob...he wasn't knocking the article. he was giving a differing opinion.

This site would be better if the writers knew a little more about what they are writing about.

Sex outside of marriage being wrong isn't an opinion, it is a fact, sex outside of marriage is called fornicating, your conscience itself tells you fornication is wrong whether or not you listen is on you so as for this writers "opinions being somewhat misguided" listen to your own conscience and you may think differently


thank you

I knew this article might be controversial,whether you think sex outside of marriage being wrong is a fact or opinion, I refuse to change the article I believe it needed to be written to wake people up, obviously it has caused alot of debate, but at the same time it seems to have served its purpose as well, the debate is simply a side affect everything has a price so that's to be expected, people are always going to debate, it is human nature so I am not at all surprised

I wasn't asking you to change your article, AW - I respect your right to have an opinion that differs to that of other people. I agree that your interesting article has caused debate and hope that the debate will remain as civilised as it has been so far. I remain baffled by the idea that sex outside marriage being wrong is a 'fact'. A good many people believe that you shouldn't have sex outside marriage, it doesn't make it a fact at all. By the way Kat, I listen to my conscience frequently and am disappointed that you imply I do not.

I wasn't trying to say you didn't listen to it Paul, just pointing out that perhaps you needed to listen a little more closely, if you do then great and my apologies for offending you

Not offended at all, Kat. Despite our differences, you have been courteous and I appreciate it. However, I still don't agree, but that seems to be a state of affairs we won't change.

There is a point the writer made that i agree with: sex is an act which is very intimate and personal and which should be done with love and someone you love. But sex is also a very important part of a relationship. Normaly you would date a certain while before you can decide if a person is a suitable partner for you. Sex should be one of the factors on which this decision is made. Unhappy marriages would likely end up in a divorce, and i think marriage should not be taken upon lightly. Nowadays the line "Till death do us part" is often replaced by "Till our interests see fit".

The reason why i took the time to write my anwser was not to spread my beliefs on marriage en sex before marriage. Just like religion, beliefs are very personal. But what did disturbe me was the simplistic view the writer displayed. STD's are not an result of sex before marriage but more of sex outside a marriage / relationship. (which in my opinion is not only done by unmarried people and more a result of dissatisfaction). And there's a second factor to that and its called protection. With protection STD's and unwanted births are as good as nullified, but it has to be commensence to use it. And that is why it should be thaugth to children who reach the age of puberty.

Last but not least, a personal note to A.Writer. If you state your opninion like this by writing an article about it, stick to it. Don't devaluate it by saying what you said in the comments. It is disrespectful to the people who do agree with the opinion written down and it kills the discussion/debate.

I didn't write the comment to be rude I just wrote it because despite the debate, my belief that fornication is wrong is set in stone and for that reason, I am unapologetic about the article
I felt it needed to be writen, so I wrote it simple as that.

Kat, A.Writer believes that fornication is wrong. But I ask again why is a belief a fact? The dictionary definitions of the two words don't concur with each other.
AW - as far as I'm concerned you have nothing to apologise for.

Thank you for writing this. This encourages me to stay with my decision to wait until marriage.