There are many different types of spousal abuse including physical, sexual and emotional, among so many others. All of which are just as serious as physical abuse. Emotional abuse can be just as debilitating or more, as physical abuse. Some forms of emotional abuse include name-calling, insults, and constant put downs. Some may think name-calling and some insults are done in fun and games, but it can still be harmful.
One in four women have been assaulted by a current or previous partner. Three quarters of those women experience emotional abuse. Of women who experience emotional abuse, 77% experience it with physical abuse, and 18% experience it alone. In the last five years, 39% of women experience some form of verbal/emotional abuse. Emotional abuse can cause some long term effects which include low self esteem, self blame, feelings of worthlessness and uselessness. Those effects can eventually lead to severe depression, anxiety, as well as back and stomach problems. Women who experience emotional abuse are five times more likely to abuse alcohol than a woman who has never experienced abuse. Although abuse can happen with alcohol, it can still happen without it.
Abused women need to keep in mind that it is not your fault, and you do not deserve it. Nothing you say or do gives anyone an excuse to harm you in anyway. I know it may be hard but don’t think you are alone in this. Other women have been abused, and you have friends and family you can turn to. Some women may feel if they speak out no one will believe them, but you should speak out no matter what. There are also organizations that operate specifically to help women who are abused in all senses of the word.
Emotional abuse is harder to detect because there are no physical marks, which also means its easier to hide being emotionally abused. If you suspect a loved one is being emotionally abused (or abused in any other way) listen to them when they do talk, believe what she, or he, says. Keep your ears open for anything that might be considered abuse. Support your loved one through any problem, help them find a place that will help her/him deal with the emotions and effects.
Women please do not keep silent about emotional abuse. I know from experience that its more harmful to stay quiet than it is to speak out. No matter what anyone says you do not deserve to be abused. You deserve respect and praise, not insults and put downs. For more information on abuse of all forms and places to go for help, please visit here.
