For those avid readers, I guess some of you have touched upon this best-selling book CELESTINE PROPHECY by James Redfield. It's about what they called the 9-INSIGHTS in discovering and finding our purpose in life. For the rest, allow me to share with you one very, very important topic.
Today I'm going expound on the 6th Insight which is the “4 Control dramas of human beings”. This explains about “energy-flow”, about how we gained energies from others and vice-versa. With so many, as we like to term, more important matters in mind, we say “to hell with them, I don't have time for those stuffs!” But when we become aware of them, it gives us a clearer understanding of so many things we tend to take for granted. It gives us better insight on how to handle certain everyday life situations.
Below are the 4 types of Control Dramas:
- Intimidator
- Interrogator
- Aloof
- Poor me
Of course there are many more different types of drama, but these are the 4 most common. We get to meet them everyday, in every walk of life. Some are simply # 1, 2, 3 or 4. Some are combination of both, three or all of them. Almost all go through life unmindful that they are already using them. Some use them accordingly depending on the kind of people they encounter.
Intimidator
These are the yellers and the bullies. I guess all of us can easily relate to this. It started ever since we are children. Remember the feeling when we were scolded by our parents? When someone yelled at us? Physically hurt us? Teachers, elders, clients or employers? There are 3 possible reactions to their anger : 1st, We either fight back, 2nd, we either get angry but remained silent or 3rd, we simply cowered back (intimidated) and scurried to a corner scared/frightened and de-energized. Notice one thing, when we feel scared, there's this inexplicable tiredness we feel, we feel so drained as if we are totally sapped out and dry. Ever felt that way? Welcome, we just meet this type of guy, “The Intimidator”.
Case in point: Our boss just got a call from a supplier/creditor demanding payment of receivables. Along the way heated words were exchanged. As a result our employer comes to office pressured and totally depleted of energy (of course, he's not aware of it). It's the most natural reaction that when he comes to the office, he is irritable, short-of-temper and is in a ready-to-yell-at-anybody mood. Once in the office, we feel it immediately and as a result we tend to panic as well. We all know that the more we panic and feel pressured, the more we are prone to committing mistakes. Next step, our boss yelled at us (or if not point the blame on things we actually didn't commit). The ball has been passed to us. That very moment, our boss felt better already because he has already gained back his energy (of course at our expense!). Now it's us who feel depleted and lacking. We are the one who becomes moody, restless and all. It's up to us now to source replenishment elsewhere. That explains why we have these long-faced, boorish, sarcastic supervisors. Because by scolding us, they unmindfully regained back their energies leaving the next victim sapped out This will go on and on down until the lowest rung of the company. With nobody else to turn to this guy goes home to either (beat-up/rant) at his wife or even worst his children (that should explain why we have school bullies because they are just as helpless at home and needs a boost). But other children simply let it end there and as a result comes to school timid and scared at the slight infractions. This will rub on the kid where he will grow up either “always scared or sadistic” This explain some behaviors of people we meet in everyday life.
Interrogators
These are the “fault-finders, the critics”. These types of people have a way of making you feel uncomfortable and intimidated as well, but in a different way. By relentlessly questioning you, finding loopholes in you, they almost always put you in a defensive posture all the time. These are basically the “cold-water-throwers”. The guys who in a simple word or two can crush an optimistic guy to pieces. They sapped you out, squeezing dry your confidence level. Of course, they might be unmindfully doing it (but the real evil ones may actually be deliberately doing it). Notice how you easily tire out when you feel depressed and out-of-hope? Because some “energy-vulture” just sucked you dry.
