I guess in some twisted sense of satisfaction, knowing some one else that is living a more miserable life than you kinds of gives us a sense of security. "Yeah, I'm living the life baby, I rock and you don't". Their sole purpose of going to a reunion is to actually look down on other people and feel good about themselves. Really, everyone wants to feel good about themselves, nothing wrong about it, its just other people's misery!
And then there are people who judged themselves more than they judged other people. Does that makes sense? I f there are people looking down at other people, then there's sure to be a bunch of people that is looked down upon, right?
Looked-downed-upon people, is that really correct (philosophically and grammatically)? Lets face it, the boy who got high marks in school might not always be destined for greatness, the dumb kid who was always behind will probably richer and more successful than you today. Looked-downed-upon people are the people that had not moved on. They are still traumatized about the decisions and things that had happen way back then. Whereas people that had moved on are afraid of their past, looked-downed-upon people are still clinging tightly to it.
Still wondering what went wrong? Everything was great back then (or not so great ... depending on which type of person you are). You'll feel that you hadn't really achieved greatness of whatsoever. You're stuck in a dead-end job, with a lousy pay while everyone around you are enjoying the best times of their lives. Sucks to be you doesn't it? Seriously, how can anyone expect you to show up and meet up with a bunch of people who'll always be better off than you. Its like a chicken actually offering its head to the chopping block saying "You know, I seriously think my life really sucks, might as well give that job offer I saw at Colonel Sanders a try"
And finally, people who actually went to reunions simply because they like to see their buddies again. No funny business, no prejudice, just a simple "Hey man, how are you?" Wassup bro?" They really don't care about who they are now or more importantly, who their friends are right now. We didn't really used to care back then, so why the hell it would be different now? You might say that people changed over time. Of course they do! We're always changing with the times, you've got white hairs now (in every hairy parts of our body), you've got a spare tire hanging around your waist, but that doesn't mean that you have to be an arrogant S.O.B. Other people might change, it doesn't mean everyone else is changed also.
So folks, it don't' matter which people you are. If you have the chance to meet up with your buddies (whom obviously will turn as fat as you are) and catch up on old times, do it. It don't have to be anything fancy, just a bunch of people sitting and talking (and probably eating too). Just look back at old times, have a laugh about it (good times), have a quiet moment about it (the not so good-or-not-to-be-remembered times) and the most important thing is have a good time about it. If there's people that seems to be bragging or an arrogant S.O.B, just ignore them. If you're stuck in a conversation with them, just pretend he's talking in a strange gibberish language. What I usually do is try to focus at the eye bag area. That way you'll be avoiding direct eye contact while pretending to remain attentive. Add in a few "Ahh""Aha""Hmm". Give a few polite nods and just politely excuse yourself.
So shine up your shoes, straighten out those suits, make yourself feel good (don't bother trying to lose that extra weight…it won't work-unless you're rich enough for a liposuction) and don't worry about what other people might think. Chances are, they'll be too self-conscious about their own life more on you.
In the end, what drives us?
Its just for memory and friendship. Its just as simple as that.
