When I get an inflammatory email from an American actress out of the blue, from someone who slanders another actress through a public service, I like to make a point. I would do this even though I don't know who the person is. I can see the actress was involved in a personal matter and acting either out of the heat of the moment or vindictively. She found her boyfriend being intimate with another woman. and decided to use facebook to broadcast that. One wonders where she got the audacity to do that and not question her fiancé instead of throwing the blame out so blatantly on another person. One wonders whether she herself has not behaved in a manner she associated to the accused.
The person made a reference about me deserving to be ashamed about having a friend like the one she reported.
The point I made began by referring to her so-called list of friends numbering 374. I asker her if she knew them all so well that none of them cheat on their boyfriends, fiancés, girlfriends, wives or husbands? Does she know everything about all her contacts and who they associate with? I doubt it. When I see a list that large I suspect that a lot of networking is done and that these are not all personal contacts she has nor does she know them thoroughly enough to know whether they are all loyal to their mates. That said, I advised her that before she sends an email slandering someone to a perfect stranger, before she informs him that he should be ashamed to know the accused, that she look at your own following and see whether all your friends are so perfect that they are all above this. She should ask herself if they are all perfect.
I advised her we live in a world where there is a lot of bed hopping and that does not exonerate many people out there some of which are "our" friends or our "so-called" friends. They get included on lists as big as hers mostly for the sake of networking, not out of friendship. In summary before I would test the quality of friendships out there with somebody she doesn't know, if I were you, I would test the quality of her own friendships.
In reality since that is very time consuming for the grand majority of people listed on the above network and others, it would be best to accept what has happened and move on. She should look for harmony in your own relationship, not bother strangers with news like this and confront her boyfriend on the matter. He could be cheating on her.
