It seems that recently society is almost the determining factor that is the pivot pin in everyone’s decisions. Without the yay or nay of society people have avoided topics that society hasn’t touched on yet. With the vast variety that society has taken, there is not much that any one person can do that doesn’t have a consequence or a label attached to it. Parents, teachers, suits, blue-collar workers, doctors, nurses, every person has been labeled the question then becomes good or bad?
Parents think about how they were raised where punishment could be anything from a time out, grounding or getting belted one on their behind and think that now society doesn't view any of those a proper measure of corrective discipline. It has become apparent that with how society views abuse that parents can be called abusive if they raise their voices to be heard over the loudness of their own children. Spanking is now abuse. How can anyone discipline his or her children if you can’t touch or talk to them? Giving them time to cool off in their rooms, restrict what they can and cannot do, see or say? You can’t and that starts the generations of youngsters that hold no respect for anyone but them selves.
Younger couples who feel that they are ready in an intimate relationship have always been told that they had to wait until after marriage before they could engage in intimate relations. But society says that it is acceptable to have intimate relations before marriage, as long as they are both consenting and of the age to understand the consequences. How does that make it right? Well society says. Society has chosen to allow something that is spiritually founded as a belief and how that it affects their lives. Society claims to be with the church. But against the church and the beliefs of the church society says it’s okay to have sex before marriage, you just need to both be consenting persons of legal age.
When is it okay to allow society to say that after one accident that Child Welfare should be sent into a home of a young single mother and make her believe that her children are going to be taken away, and that is the only incident that happened? Shouldn't there be a limit for the mixed up values of society to dictate our lives?
Everyone has heard their grandfathers and fathers say that they had to walk up hill both ways to get to and from school. That they get strapped at school for poor behavior. That was acceptable to society. Why did society change? As time goes on and definitions are given to words that weren't commonly used back then, Society changes the views to fit the descriptive words that have meanings in different ways. Now a neglectful parent takes their child out of one school and puts them in another for better attention to the needs of the students. Her child gets taken away for wanting the best for her child. Does that really work?
Spanking and time outs are not allowed anymore without having to wonder if someone will speak against you. As a parent who has to say that I actually wish that I had been spanked more, I was a terrible teenager because I wasn't properly disciplined. I never got great trouble or punishment for anything that I did. Without that society blames the parents of the youth that cause fights and kills, using drugs and alcohol. How can that be the parents fault when the means of showing that there are consequences to one actions consists of “don’t do it again” and that is all. There is no consequence and that was learned early on and taken advantage of once learned.
Society, wonders why the crime rate is up in a lot of places and yet is it not society claiming that it is just misguided youth that needs a second, third and fourth chance? Society does not seem to grasp the elevated problems due to the tightening circle of what is acceptable and what isn't. Again blame the parents for not being able to discipline without fear of children being taken away. Blame the parents for following what society find acceptable for the guidelines of parenting. Society needs to put two and two together and how crime increases as well as how parents are blamed for many things that parents have no control of anymore because society says. When society is taken apart and parents can do what they need to crime rates will drop.
Smoking used to happen everywhere. I am in the middle of quitting but you nearly can't walk down the streets in Canada without having someone telling you to put your smoke out. It has become extremely difficult to accomplish anything that is not viewed as acceptable to society. Breathing is has almost become unacceptable, the only thing is that without breathing society and its control over the population wouldn't exist. Nothing would. Figure that society has become an extreme sport that the masses need to win over so that society will stop setting a height at an acceptable level of everything and everyday living. Society says parents this and cars that. Environmental concerns, crime rates increasing, Not knowing where they can put an end to what is viewed unacceptable.
Society is getting in the way. Personal values should come first and people should respect the ways that people were raised with. Society has questions and security concerns and maybe Society should consider what they have put for the standards and why it's questions go unanswered. As I have observed, Society creates problems and security concerns, only to create more and wonder how it happened. How things got out of control, how parents could allow their children to do things that are unacceptable. How each individual isn’t making an effort to right the wrongs. There is a noose around each individual’s neck placed there by society, and society is ready to make the noose tighter. Society has become the problem not the individuals.
