The moment most heterosexual women are of age and want to get their
lives started, they go in search of that one element that they want
and need. That element? Mr. Right.
And even though each woman may have her own view of who this Mr. Right
could be, is it suffice to say that there are different concepts of
who the right man is.
For example, in some male dominated societies in the world, a woman
of marriageable age is viewed by society as being nothing if she does
not have a man by her side, in a marital capacity, of course. So
for this kind of woman usually a man who is seen as being reliable,
stable, the breadwinner and a good family man could be her idea of
Mr. Right.
Now this does not mean that most women in say, a progressive society
such as this one do not want those qualities in a man either. They do,
but if they do not find him and say, they are looking for someone who
will be faithful to them because maybe their last boyfriend/husband
cheated on them, then maybe the supposed faithful man they find could
be their idea of Mr. Right.
Other women could be looking for other qualities. Like maybe some
might want a good father figure for her/their children, or someone who
will simply be there for their wives/mates no matter what.
While others will want to be with their Mr. Right because they fell in
love, are quite compatible, have a good understanding between them
etc. This writer does not believe that the Mr. Right concept is based
on one general theory.
And of course, if a woman does find a man who is everything she wants
him to be: reliable, stable, is strong enough to be faithful to his
woman no matter what, a good family man, loves her and gives her the
attention she is seeking, then that's indeed a fortunate woman.
The "reliable, stable, is strong enough to be faithful to his woman no matter what, a good family man, loves her and gives her the attention she is seeking" guys are are out there. Lots of them.
It depends on where you look -- but most importantly -- where YOU are within yourself.
MOST women who constantly gripe about not finding a good man have control issues -- whether they are wiling to accept it or not. Their alleged "Mr. Right" is so perfect for a while, because he falls in line with her expectations. But once the flaws are exposed (and flaws are inevitable), she begins to either think twice, or try to change him.
Big mistake. Big, BIG mistake.
A man is a nomad by nature. That doesn't make him a player or a cheater. A good man can control his urges. (A real man, that is). But once a woman tries to control him (the GOOD man you mentioned), his natural response is to run. On the other hand, a man you can control is a man you get bored with, and the woman is the one who up and leaves. Rightly so. He's weak (no matter how hot and sweet he is).
Like attracts like, and if you have your issues settled within yourself (control or otherwise) -- honestly finding happiness and love within yourself -- you will find a man of the same caliber. Your chances of a good lasting relationship are very good at that point.
And that's what you really want. Right? Why are some of you women so afraid of being alone? Is it your "biological clock"? Whatever it is, fear of loneliness is a sure fire way to know that you NEED to be alone for a while, and learn to deal with yourself and your issues. Once you've found that place, you will find "Mr. Right".