Logistically speaking, you're here. He's there. Late night phone calls just aren't enough anymore.
Undoubtedly the hardest part about long distance relationships is the distance!. A sizable distance (200 miles or more) creates more challenges. How can you strengthen your bond when the miles are long? Read on…
Commitment Is Key
Trust is an intrinsic part of any relationship, all the more so for a Long Distance Relationship. Frankly discuss with your partner your needs and expectations. Don't be afraid to speak up for fear or rocking the boat. Speak from your soul. Discuss what each of you is willing to invest into the relationship. Determine if your relationship is to be monogamous or if you will both be seeing other people. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Remember, you do not have the luxury of daily face-to-face contact so always be honest. Work hard to dispel any doubts or fears your partner has about the distance. Give of yourself.
Shape Your Lives
Another obstacle in long distance relationships is something I like to call “An Affair to Remember” syndrome where the couple lives in a fantasy world, not allowing the "real world" to intrude. While fantasy has it's place (and that's another article, hee hee) Don't let your lovely romantic weekends obscure the day to day sameness of real life. So, to that end, share mundane moments with your love. Took the dog to the vet today? Talk about it with your honey. Bought a new pair of shoes? Tell your partner. These intimate tidbits help cement the fact that you are a couple. And are in it for the long haul.
And Finally, Keep It Spicy
Flirt with your mate. Continue to "date". Have movie night where you both rent the same DVD and play it at the same time, enjoying the drama and laughs together. Send flowers, a card or a surprise gift ... (diamonds always work ... )
Travel together. Above all, keep the relationship moving forward. Develop goals as a couple. Prepare for your future.
Live & Love.
You will succeed in your long distance Relationship.
