Walking out of elementary school and into high school made me and my friends feel like we were “GROWN”. Of course we wasn't but our grades were no longer numbered. Our grades started with words now. So we had the sense that we could say and do whatever we pleased.
We could dress the way we wanted. Wear our hair in a more mature style. Wear our nails long. Use profanity freely without worrying about who was around. Flirt with boys even though we didn't know the first thing about boys... or flirting.
From all the stories I heard about high school from my older cousins, high school sounded like a dream. Even the stories I heard about them and their boyfriends. The conversations they had and the things they would do intrigued me and had me wondering if I would ever experience those things.
I had never had a boyfriend so I didn't know what to expect or what boys expected. Actually I didn't know what I expected out of high school. I just knew I had to go. I didn't know what I would encounter, but I knew I would go through some things. But the biggest things my girls and me struggled with losing our virginity.
One of my friends (we'll call her “Tina”) had lost her virginity when we were in the eighth grade to a guy who was senior. I thought he should be put in jail but what did my opinion matter at 13 years old? She had gotten “attached” to him after that night but of course, she was still a kid and wanted nothing more from her than what he got. I had never seen her so hurt.
It made me wonder, “Is that what sex does to you? Does it make you cling to someone?” I didn't know the answer to that question and to this day I'm not 100% accurate about it.
I wonder about the pressure that is put on girls now a days to have sex. I know how it was when I was in school but the world and people have changed so much since then. From what I have been seeing lately is that teenage girls are losing their virginities for the wrong reasons. Some are trying to get pregnant to trap a guy. Some are doing it to keep a man. Some are doing it simply because they think that it's the “cool” thing to do.
The reason that makes me extremely angry is the line they use, “Everyone is doing it”. So what? What does that matter? The big question is where are the parents? Do parents not teach their daughters about sex and the consequences? Do they not talk about peer pressure? So many girls are influenced by guys to lose their virginity or have sex period and no one has talked to these poor girls. It disturbs me because a woman's virginity is the most precious thing that she has that can't be replaced.
Guys look at taking a woman's virginity as a “score” like game. We need to guide our young women in the right direction and stop letting other people who don't care about them guide them for us. How does this make you feel?
