Though this is a subject frequently discussed, details are generally glossed over so as not to offend liberals. I am a woman, a fallible woman. I’ve made many mistakes in my life. This article is not one of them. I have no daughters of my own, nor do I intend to create any, but I know several young ladies who could benefit from the things I know.
To Our Daughters
Because I love you all, though I don’t know most of you. Because I wish someone had told me these things. And because life can be harsh, here goes.
Do you love yourself? If you don’t, this might hurt your feelings or make you angry. If you do love yourself, you just might understand. Loving yourself is not a simple thing. It’s not just about saying it once or twice. It’s not about spending hours in the mirror. Beauty comes from the inside. Loving yourself is about truth. Know your strengths and faults and love yourself anyway.
What do you think about sex? Do you think it’s something you should do unmarried? Obviously, the majority of the world doesn’t think marriage should come after marriage. That’s why virgins are rarer than flying reindeer. Lot’s of young women out there believe that sex is something that comes with having a boyfriend. They believe that love is something they have to make. Another question. If you didn’t have sex with your boyfriend, would he break up with you? Would you think it was your fault? Men are men. Not to say that’s an excuse, but that’s the way it is, especially in today’s world where the joke is on us anyway. Ladies, we won the ability to vote, to work and fight alongside men. But what price did we unnecessarily pay. To go from being a prized possession to a cheap trinket to be enjoyed without commitment or responsibility is sad. I’m more than a little worried about us as a whole.
Did you know that your body is supposed to be a rare treasure? A treasure so powerful and desired that men wrote sonnets about it. So rare and unsullied that man died for it, sacrificed for it. How rare is a treasure that other people have touched and seen? How valuable is a prize that can be won by more than one person? Think of this: It’s about self love and…supply and demand. The more you supply, the less the demand. So why supply for free? You don’t supply your body in exchange for money either, that’s prostitution. You don’t supply your body in exchange for anything less than a lifetime of being loved and cherished. Why settle for giving your body to a guy who tells you he loves you. Even if he does, understand this. Nothing comes without a sacrifice. Not even love. Should you sacrifice the greatest gift on this planet when all he sacrifices is his time or affection? Don’t settle for a man out of loneliness, nor the need to be loved, not now, not ever. You are more important and more precious.
Why is there so much unwed pregnancy? It’s about self-love. In addition to having unwed sex, ladies, you are so easily manipulated. Do you think a man is thinking of you when he wishes to leave out the use of a condom? He’s thinking of his own sexual pleasure. He’s not thinking that you might become pregnant, or that he might be unknowingly passing on a STD. If you are having sex with your boyfriend, do me a favor. In whatever situation you are in right now, do you see yourself with this man 40 years from now? Can you honestly say that you can imagine being wrapped in his arms at night in a home you both own with grandchildren and a band on your ring-finger? Now tell me this, do you think he can do the same? Don’t be afraid to wait for commitment. It’s not a curse forced on a man to trap him into marriage. It’s a blessing sanctified by God. It’s a gift for the worthy to fuse your hearts, minds, bodies, and souls as one. And sex is a wonderful and fulfilling experience that physically expresses the promises you’ve made to one another.
You cannot love yourself, if you think that your body is an even trade to belong to someone. It’s an unappreciated gift if he doesn’t have to do anything to deserve it. Love yourself, and love God. Through those two things, you can bring to yourself what you want. It’s about manifesting your destiny. You attract what you feel you deserve. If you think you deserve to be the bridesmaid and never the bride, you will be. If you feel you deserve to have a series of sexual relationships with men who you will only look back at with nostalgic sadness, you will. But if you know you deserve a man who will love you completely and desires to be yours and for you to be his for the rest of your lives, you will be pleasantly surprised.
